When you think you are trying to be vigilant against most abuse, it pops rights up before you. Recently, my best friend (I will call Tom) and his girlfriend (I will call Cassie) gaslighted me. I have known them for years, him being longer with getting to know her after they got together. I thought I had a great friendship with them, doing what regular friends do. I had met Tom through my abusive ex (who I call Bully), and when all of those things with Bully went down, Tom ended things with Bully, and Tom and I became allies. We also dated for a couple of months, and both realized we were better off as friends. Cassie was an ex-girlfriend of Bully too, so we had something in common and an understanding. For 12 years, Tom and Cassie have been a couple, and we all have shared many things, and our kids played together, etc. Unfortunately, we argued last year, and Cassie and I didn't talk for a few months. I missed her very much, and then I made the move of rekindling the frien